I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND

Posted by: Maureen Holloway | Oct 27 2009 12:00AM

So here we are, on the cusp of panic over the pandemic. I don't mean to diminish the threat of the H1N1 flu (or hiney flu, as it first appeared to me). People are dying from it, if not in droves, then in dribbles, and yes, after some deliberation, we are going to get the kids vaccinated, and then ourselves, and the sooner the better. Prevention is also a large part of the cure, and by now you've probably received a number of well-intentioned emails, as I have, urging you to cough in your elbow and Purell yourself up to your armpits and avoid shaking hands if at all possible. Which brings me to the search for a new form of greeting. Hugs and kisses are now being discouraged in places where public displays of affection are the norm (namely anywhere but Toronto). Handshakes are being displaced in favour of the fist bump. My pal John Garbutt has gone so far as to propose the Low Toe, which involves touching toes, preferably encased in leather and rubber, thereby avoiding fleshly contact altogether. Not a bad idea. I find most people don't even know how to greet each other properly even without the threat of contagion. Men with men are fine - they do the firm handshake, the upper arm grip, and, if they're close, the manly hug with the triple thump on the back to the rhythm of "I'M-NOT-GAY". Men with women are a little more awkward. Not to sure whether to shake or kiss or hug. Usually a little fumbling around, and sometimes, if alcohol is involved, some inappropriate touching. Women with women? The worst. If there's a handshake, it's often limp and moist, under the impression that it's ladylike: "Oh hello, nice to meet you, here's a cold, dead fish for you to hold". Then comes the air kissing, so as not to mess lipstick and/or hair. So really, we're not missing out on much if we eschew physical contact, at least not for the next little while. If the Low Toe doesn't grab you, how about the salute? Perhaps a tad too military, and discomfiting if delivered with a straight arm and a boot click. The hat doff is charming and old worldly, but requires a hat. How about the Asian bow? It's graceful, non-gender specific, and gives your lower back a nice workout. I say bow ... Wow! I bow to you, you bow to me, and if we avoid head bonking, we're good to go.



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COMMENTS (19)

Jacq
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Nov 2 2009 1:49PM
I'm with Sue - I have never gotten a flu shot and don't intend to start now... I have also never been hit hard by any flu whatsoever (the most I've ever taken off work during flu season is two days and most years I don't even get the flu). As for greetings, I will continue to shake hands where appropriate, hug my friends and family, and assume that since the human race made it this far without pandemicking itself into extinction, we'll continue to survive...

Dawn
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 29 2009 3:02PM
I really don't understand why people are having a problem with a simple handshake. If you think about all the items you touch in a day that other people have touched, especially money (who knows where that dirty stuff has been?), what's the problem with having a quick handshake? Just don't go shoving your finger up your nose afterward!!

hamilTonyn
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 28 2009 10:32AM
I still say theres nothing wrong with the good old butt pat.

tartanrocker
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 28 2009 9:34AM
OMG, I am LMAO!!!....the Hiney Flu...I have called it that ever since I saw it written as a backdrop to a TV news story, and didn't have my glasses on....LOL!!!.... ...kind of appropriate tho, if you get your hiney thru this flu thing, you're doing OK... ...OK Mo, here's my suggestion for a greeting.... close to the hiney is the hip....how about bringing back the Bump as a hello of sorts?...haul out your old Walkman, get those cassettes with KC and the Sunshine Band on full volume...it's rather symbolic too, to bump the flu away from you and your hiney....whaddya think?...or am I just having a wet Wednesday ramble....LOL!!!

Garry
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 28 2009 9:13AM
Hey Mo, Im all in favour of the good ole chin waggle. No not the type old women make, looking like a flock of chicken looking for their next meal. The more abrupt, jerky motion the home boys of Bram'town make in acknowledgment of each others bad ass attitude. You know the one. Its the same motion your husband would make when he is trying to determine if he has any "dogs in the doghouse", only without curling up his nose. I suppose however a little flaring of the nostrils could be introduced as one of those secret handshakes much coveted by the Masonic temples. Until such time however, I bow to you. Have the best day ever!

VME
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 28 2009 8:44AM
Why don't we just go the route of almost non verbal, non-human grunt...YO. I hear the kids on my street all the time, seems as if thats all they say. Works for them.

Elaine
I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 28 2009 7:51AM
too much is being made of it I think, basic cleanliness works for me, I'm more worried about the crazy drivers on the roads!

Dave
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 28 2009 6:37AM
Mo, I'm nearly 50. I was brought up with a hearty handshake being the proper way to greet each other. Hugs? I don't hug friends I've had for 30 years. What happened to our personal space. I hug my children. I shake people's hands. If it goes out of fashion as a result of people fearing germs, then a simple: Hello, How are you? Is more than ample greetings. The secret is not feigning your interest. Pay actual attention to someone when you greet them. It's much more flattering than the false camaraderie of hugs, fist bumps, and back slaps.

Kelli
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 28 2009 12:50AM
I think a polite Hello is fine.Who wants to grab someone's arm after they have sneezed in it?

MS
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 27 2009 9:39PM
How about bumping hips...

Mike
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 27 2009 5:48PM
Hi Mo, my grandfather was, if nothing else, a bit of an eccentric when it came to interacting with other human beings. As such, he felt that the most formal greeting was the adoption of the Japanese bow. The deeper the bow, the deeper the respect. This would have been fine were he of Japanese descent. However, poor old Grand-dad was a Scotsman and to see him bowing in full Kilt attire was a spectacle to behold.

Jim K
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 27 2009 4:38PM
Hey Mo I think we all need to take a lesson from square dancing. Whenever two people greet each other they should just do the "do sa do". No touching at all. Either that or just do what dogs do when they greet and sniff each other's butts.

monique
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 27 2009 3:59PM
we are turning into a society that will no longer want to touch each other in fear of picking up or spreading germs and viruses!! i'm starting the low toe!! let's see if we can get everyone on board with this one. it makes perfect sense!??... although it could become a little icky come summer time!!

sue
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 27 2009 3:48PM
i will definitely not be getting a flu shot of any kind. i never have or will i ever. if people wish to get it, that's fine, but i feel like this whole flu thing is getting out of hand. we don't know for sure that the boy that die had it & if he did, what was he doing at a tournament anyways, infecting everyone else. i've always eaten a balanced diet & upped my intake of vitamin c & taken echincea during the winter months, excercised & tried to get to bed at a reasonable hour. i've been fortunate enough over the years not to get sick, even though everyone else around me has at least once. the flu shot is good for some people, but, for me, no thanx.

Dave vw
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 27 2009 3:25PM
Completely off topic, but I'm telling you because I KNOW you care (and I don't know if you know yet)... Miss Doxie's back!!! (Again.) (Here's hoping this time it takes.)

Maureen Holloway: I KNOW! But she's broken my heart twice, so I'm proceeding with caution ...

Connie
RE: I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 27 2009 2:20PM
My dog prances on the spot and 'smiles' (a happy show of the fangs accompanied by a soft snorting noise) when she greets me. I'm not into prancing so I'll pass on that one. And sorry, Jim, but knees are too low unless you're toddler-sized, so I'll pass on that one, too. The Asian bow might work, but I'd rather not have bumps on my head. I think I'll go with a respectful incline of the head, accompanied by a friendly smile and a cheerful greeting. I think 'hi' works quite nicely.

James Brown
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 27 2009 12:58PM
Hi Mo , How about a little royal wave & a polite Hello .

Donna
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 27 2009 12:13PM
Hi Mo, I don't think the fist bumping is such a good idea anymore because you don't know if the bumper has just wiped their nose with the back of their hand then the bumpee without thinking wipes their nose.....ew! Perhaps we should do the slight head tilt, snapped up 2 to 3 inches accompanied by a mumbled 'hey', like my son did during his teen years, when greeting family or friends!

Jim
RE:I DON'T WANNA HOLD YOUR HAND
Oct 27 2009 11:56AM
My dog puts his paw up on my knee when he greets me. That might work. I don't think knees are known transmitters of germs.

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