WHINE AND DINE

Posted by: Maureen Holloway | Nov 19 2009 12:00AM

A few weeks ago, a New York restaurateur /blogger named Bruce Buschel published a list of 100 things restaurant staffers should never do and it caused a big reaction in the restaurant world, mostly because it comes across as a fascist diatribe from the mind of a megalomaniac. For instance, not only does he exhort his waiters never to touch or brush against the customers’ chair (even accidentally), but they should never serve a salad on a plate that’s too cold, or allow music to play that has any brass in it (sorry Miles Davis). Buschel also suggests that if a customer likes a particular dish, the waiter should provide a recipe, and if he likes a bottle of wine, the waiter should STEAM OFF THE LABEL AND PRESENT IT WITH THE BILL. But only if it’s from a bottle of Chateau Neuf De KissAss. Seriously.
 
Mr. Buschel’s list is a bit over the top, but that being said, I’d still like to add a few suggestions of my own. Keep in mind that I have worked as a waiter, and I know it’s a very tough gig, and that there are far more annoying customers than waiters, but still.
 
-       Don’t tell me your name. I ‘m not telling you MY name, am I? Are we going to be friends? I think not.
-       Do not squat or hunker down when you talk to the table. The customers are not toddlers, we do not need to be at eye level, and squatting and hunkering are not appetizing.
-       Don’t interrupt me to tell me the specials. I know you’re busy, but you can wait until there’s a pause in the conversation. That’s why you’re called a waiter.
-       Do not refer to us as “you guys”.
-       Get away from me with your giant peppermill. Why can’t restaurants allow patrons to wield their own peppermills? What’s the worse that can happen?
-       Don’t top off my glass of wine every 5 minutes. It hastens consumption, which may be the point, but some of us have to drive, and some of us have to keep our face out of the soup.
 
 
Any other suggestions?



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COMMENTS (17)

Carol
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 25 2009 1:08PM
bad: Clearing the dishes on the table when people are still eating. ie I'm not finished but my husband is and they clear his dishes away, while I am chowing down. I prefer not to be interrupted by "the stranger" at this point. My husband eats faster, this happen often, and when they do clear all his stuff away, forks are flying, dirty napkins are in front of me...glasses clang and sounds of "opps sorry" come from the server - it does not make for a good dining experience...no matter if it's Swiss Chalet, or Momo's. When all is finally cleared, I am eating alone. Bad!

MS
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 21 2009 10:52PM
I agree with pretty everything MO has said. I would like to add that fake smiles and conversation are really annoying. Just be pleasant

Kelli
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 20 2009 11:48AM
I do this kind of work for a living & I would have to say that most of the people who have a list of complaints as long as your arm have never done this type of work. EVER!! If you have so many complaints when you go out, STAY HOME!!

Sharon
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 20 2009 10:50AM
Hilarious - I read the whole list and heartily agree with many points.. as a woman who travels on business and does eat "fast food" I often "dine as a singleton" and I always take a book with me so I don't look like I got stood up on a date..sometimes staff see the book and figure it out and are very gracious and attentive, sometimes they leave there and make me beg for everything...and sometimes they hit on me...sigh....note to Elizabeth - I swear wait staff is trained to watch from afar till your mouth is full to rush over and ask "How is it?"..obviously it's good or I wouldn't be shovelling it in my mouth!

Maria
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 20 2009 9:59AM
I have so many waiter stories ... Once while in Florida a waiter asked us "Would you like your invoice now?" That would have been great if we were planning to leave but we had not even eaten yet ... so I replied "How about the menu first and the check about 30 minutes after that?"

Maria
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 20 2009 9:56AM
This does not have to do with waiters ... but one day at the McDonalds drive through after placing my order I was asked if the order was "to go?" My reply ... "no, I'm coming in ... just wait for me while I park my car" I laughed all the way to the window as did my 14 year old son...

wayne hillaby
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 20 2009 8:51AM
either you have to seek them out if you require service during dinner/bill or they stare at you intently once you have answered their question, sorry I have nothing else, want to hear a joke or hear me sing. Love your show Maureen

Carol
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 20 2009 8:43AM
Don't ask me if I would "like mushrooms or gravy with my meal" or "a refill" of a kid's drink if you are going to charge me extra. Let me know "for an extra five dollars you can get sour cream on that" and let me make the decision. You're not doing me any favors.

Frank
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 20 2009 8:33AM
Don't treat us like cattle. If the menu is open, NO..... we are not ready to order. Your not in your seat 30 seconds and we are suppose to know exactly what we want from the menu!

A
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 20 2009 8:14AM
If youknow how to speak a languag other than English, don't speak it around me without knowing that I also speak it; it makes me feel unimportant and out of place, makes me think you're up to something shady, and I find it inconsiderate. ALSO *hit happens, I know, so it's not the biggest deal if things don't run so smoothly all the time, but, if that should be the case with my meal, please acknowledge me as being in an upsetting or inconvenient position. Don't overdo it, mind you, I don't like excuses and unending apologies feel insincere, but to completely avoid the unpleasant nature of my stay is incredibly rude. If you don't care, just pretend that you do and I will still tip you.

Andrew
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 20 2009 7:37AM
Don't come to the table sweating or smelling (B.O. or heavy perfume).

doug
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 20 2009 12:23AM
If I ask, "what's good here" dont' respond with, "it's all good" It is not all good. I know that, and you know that. Some stuff has been sitting around for days, some stuff is just terrible. Hopefully there's something that's good, so please help me out.

Chris
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 19 2009 10:04PM
1. Don't EVER argue with me, when you bring me the wrong dish and say I ordered it when it has mushrooms. I NEVER EVER eat mushrooms, so I promise you, I did NOT order that. Agh. 2. Don't wait 45 minutes after I order to tell me that you are out of the ingredients for the appetizer I ordered, and then CHARGE ME FOR IT ANYWAY ON MY BILL. SERIOUSLY?????

Jim
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 19 2009 9:28PM
I disagree with your last comment. Bring me a bigger glass - and keep it topped up. I will take a cab - or just sleep over - and I don't eat soup so falling in it is not a problem.

Jim K
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 19 2009 3:02PM
Hey Mo: Do not always ask me if I want the combo. It's humiliating enough that I'm talking into a mechanical clown's mouth.

Donna
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 19 2009 1:38PM
When I ask for a lemon wedge for my drink, either bring it in my drink or in a little dish...DO NOT carry it in your bare hands from the kitchen to my table and then plunk it in my drink!!! Ewww!

Elizabeth
RE:WHINE AND DINE
Nov 19 2009 1:06PM
Don't wait until the exact second I have put a forkfull of food into my mouth to ask "how is everything"? or If you are a female server, don't direct all your questions to my husband, as you never know who will pick up the tab and consequently give you your tip. Us females don't like being ignored by servers!

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