BE OUR GUEST

Posted by: Maureen Holloway | Jul 20 2010 12:00AM

A lot of people think of their cottage (or camp or cabin, depending on what part of the country you live in) as a place to get away from it all. I think of it as a place to get away TO. Because it’s busy up there, y’all. We entertain guests almost every weekend. We love having company because it’s a chance to hang out with friends in our jammies. We can stay up late, and not have to worry about driving home, and have breakfast together. With guests we can play euchre and Scrabble and Screw Your Neighbour. Good guests (and we only have good guests) cook and clean and help with chores and projects. Having good guests makes life easier than not having guests at all. So what makes a good cottage guest?  Well let me tell you, since I was just interviewed on the subject by the Toronto Sun. A good cottage guest should:

- Accept an invitation promptly, and not waffle thinking something better might come along. It won't.
- Offer to bring sheets and towels. Cottages often do not have laundry facilities.
-  Offer to bring and/or prepare a meal. For everyone in the house. That meal should not consist of frozen pizza. Kraft Dinner or stuff from your fridge that was about to turn. Clean up afterward.
- Be prepared to help out on a cottage project: building a dock, painting, etc. You do not have to shovel out an outhouse. If asked to do that, refuse, leave, and never look back.
- Do not complain about the length of the drive, the bugs, the weather or the facilities. Do not compare your host’s cottage to one you visited in Muskoka that has 5 flat screen TV’s, a 2000 square foot guesthouse, and hot and cold running hockey players. You probably didn’t get asked back there either.
- If you are a couple in the throes of a new relationship, be discreet. Cottage walls are often thin. Try the bushes. Watch out for poison ivy.
- If you have babies, toddlers or young children, be prepared to look after them yourself. Bring appropriate life jackets and helmets. Just to be safe, make the kids wear them to bed.
- Bring books and/or magazines. Do not hesitate to indulge in some quiet time on your own. Your host might like to do the same.
- Bring your own sunscreen and bug repellent.
- Bring booze. Lots. More than you think you’ll need. This does not necessarily mean you should drink it all.
- Finally, Screw Your Neighbour is a card game, not an option.

You're welcome.

 




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COMMENTS (14)

George
RE:BE OUR GUEST
Jul 26 2010 7:36PM
I have a water access island w/cabin. So I know what you write - thank you for putting it out there for those to 'read'. Add in for those with kids - rocks and roots - lift your feet, the hospital is miles away with no ambulance. Nature - please leave footprints, take pics. Garbage - bring containers, not loose items, and do not leave chip crumbs, beer caps, and 'stuff' outside - there's bears in them there woods ! Long pants for hikes - poison ivy and oak. Bait if you want to fish - do I look like a bait store ? I can tell you that 'chipping in/helping' really matters. When guests help, boy, I sure have them in mind to come back. Folks who sit, and maybe do dishes - well, after I've worked all day and have to find you a pillow - stay home next year !

Caroline
RE:BE OUR GUEST
Jul 26 2010 5:21PM
In response to me sitting reading a magazine while others work, my friends don't invite you to their cottage and start or continue a "project", they invite you to relax. It is a different thing if you are invited to "help work on the cottage", then you go prepared to work and play, not just play. I'm just saying that most people don't go to a friends cottage expecting to work, unless they are told about an imminent "project in the works".

Jacq
RE:BE OUR GUEST
Jul 23 2010 3:49PM
"Finally, Screw Your Neighbour is a card game, not an option" - guess that depends on how friendly you are with your neighbours... ;-)

Tamara
You leaving....
Jul 21 2010 9:30AM
HI Mo, I was waiting for you to post today’s blog but I can not wait any longer. I would like to express the sadness I feel that you are leaving the Q92. You had me in tears this morning though I have never had the pleasure of meeting you I feel like I have lost a good friend. You made my mornings. I will no longer listen to the Q I love Aaron but will not be the same without you. I will still follow your blog you are such a wonderful writer. I wish you all the best in your future broadcasts I am sure you will get more loyal fans. Tamara

Elaine
RE:BE OUR GUEST
Jul 21 2010 7:29AM
you are so right Mo

Cinnamon Buns
RE:BE OUR GUEST
Jul 20 2010 8:12PM
Thanks for the info. A good friend of ours just bought a lodge with several cabins, which all need a lot of work. The hubby and I just went there for the first time this weekend, and he helped tear up old carpets and floor tiles. I volunteered to make the horse shoe pits useable, by pulling out the overgrown weeds and turning the dirt. Next time I go, I will be working in the gardens. Do you have a suggestion, for what I should bring up next time, for a lodge warming gift? I like the toilet paper idea, I will bring a huge package from Costco up, and also a huge thing of paper serviettes.

Maureen Holloway: All good.

Caroline
RE:BE OUR GUEST
Jul 20 2010 6:48PM
Hi Maureen, I have to agree with you about, "Why would we ask a guest to redo our electrical system?", but the thing is, why would you ask a "GUEST" to paint a dock or make cottage repairs? I agree that guests should help with dishes, bring essentials, bring food and booze, but it is their time to get away and RELAX also. I guess I'll never be invited to your cottage!

Maureen Holloway: Well Caroline, chances are that when you visit someone's cottage there will be some sort of project going on. If you're content to sit with your magazine while everyone else gets involved, don't be surprised if it's your last invitation. Just sayin' ...

Brian
RE:BE OUR GUEST
Jul 20 2010 1:32PM
I've been going to friends cottages for years and have been known to chop wood and gather kindling, wash windows and screens, sweep floors, cut lemons and limes for the dock party (gin and tonic only!!), wash dishes, help cook, yadda yadda yadda. I always bring food and booze (you need a lot of gin for 80 people) and always "earn my keep". As the perfect guest, I'll wait for your invite!

sally
RE:BE OUR GUEST
Jul 20 2010 1:08PM
You got that one on the head. They should also bring tin foil, paper towel and toilet paper. It does not go bad and you are always using it. My brother in law is a great guest. He always is there to help out on a project brings his own bedding and never complains about bad knees. The wife on the other hand doesn't like the drive and hates the bugs but is great with a broom.

Frank
RE:BE OUR GUEST
Jul 20 2010 12:47PM
Hi Mo Having been guests many times at our friends over the years we always did all of the items on you list especially the booze. I also used to bring my own hand tools as there were projects that had to be worked on. That only went 'til noon as you had to open the bar sometime! (This didn't include the special coffee at breakfast)

Jim
RE:BE OUR GUEST
Jul 20 2010 12:31PM
Hi Mo - great post. As an owner of a cottage as well, I just want to add to one of your rules: " Bring booze - lots - more than you think you'll need - and leave behind anything that's leftover at the end of your stay."

Jeffie Boy
RE:BE OUR GUEST
Jul 20 2010 11:46AM
Thin Walls... The old joke always was "Who gets the radio tonight?"

Rob
RE:BE OUR GUEST
Jul 20 2010 11:26AM
You nailed it Mo. We had old friends up to the cottage last weekend and its like they read your mind. All brought lots of food and lots of booze (ice as well) and they all do dishes which is huge when you have 10 for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Also heard your note about commuting Monday morning. I live in Parry Sound but work in Burlington - been doing the commute home Thursday night and back Monday morning for 3 years. Both time slots are better than the Friday / Sunday regime but you are right - the secret is out! Cheers Rob PS Enjoy your holiday up North!

Kelly
RE:BE OUR GUEST
Jul 20 2010 11:21AM
Not having a cottage but a tent I refer to as the "Palace", I agree with your criteria of a good guest except with the cottage projects instant labourers. If there needs to be building and fixing then these should be left to those who have experience and are qualified to do so. Just think if a complete amatuer redid your electrical system or plumbing; you would might end up with a light bulb in your toilet and the sewage drain in your kitchen sink!

Maureen Holloway: Why would we ask a guest to redo our electrical system?

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